Episode 22 - Manifesting Love and Partnership: How Lori and Michael Pine Built a Life by Design

In this warm and deeply personal episode, Lori Pine—executive coach, podcast host, and former corporate leader—invites her husband, Michael Pine, to share their love story and the lessons they’ve learned about building a lasting, intentional partnership.

From a chance meeting to blending families and creating a home rooted in trust and laughter, Lori and Michael reflect on what it truly means to manifest love—not through wishful thinking, but through clarity, consistency, and courage.

If you’ve ever wondered how to attract the kind of relationship that truly supports your soul (or nurture the one you’re already in), this episode will fill your heart and challenge you to love with purpose.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

Clarity Attracts Compatibility
Lori’s “non-negotiables list” wasn’t just about finding the right partner—it was about knowing herself first.
Audience follow-up → What values or qualities are non-negotiable for you in love or partnership?

Reliability Is the Ultimate Love Language
Michael shares how simple acts—like showing up, keeping promises, and following through—create emotional safety.
Audience follow-up → How can you show your reliability to someone you love this week?

Blending Families Requires Grace and Teamwork
Together, Lori and Michael open up about the challenges of uniting two families—and the importance of communication, patience, and humor along the way.
Audience follow-up → Where could you extend more compassion or flexibility in your family dynamics?

Affection and Daily Connection Matter More Than Grand Gestures
Love isn’t sustained by big moments—it’s built in the small ones: morning coffee, shared laughter, a quick “I love you.”
Audience follow-up → What’s one small, meaningful gesture you can make a daily ritual?

Manifestation Starts with Self-Discovery
Before attracting the right partner, Lori had to become the kind of person who could receive the love she desired.
Audience follow-up → How aligned are you with the type of love you’re asking for? What inner work still calls to you?

✨ Reflection Prompts:

• What does a healthy, supportive partnership look like for you?
  
• How do you express love and reliability in your daily life?
  
• What’s one pattern or belief about relationships you’re ready to release?
  
• How can you make your current (or future) partnership more intentional and joyful?
  
  

🧠 Who This Episode Is For:

• Singles ready to attract a conscious, loving partner
  
• Couples looking to deepen trust and connection
  
• Blended families navigating love and harmony
  
• Anyone curious about the real work behind “manifesting love”
  
  

📩 Want to Go Deeper?

• Create your own Non-Negotiables List.
  
• Listen to more Joy CEO episodes on self-awareness, leadership, and love
  
• Connect with Lori at loripine.com for coaching and resources
  
  

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Transcript

Lori: Welcome to the Joy CEO podcast, where ambition meets aspiration and leadership gets a whole lot more joyful. I'm your host, Lori Pine, former corporate VP turned executive coach here to help you grow your impact and your wellbeing. If you're a high achieving professional in a corporate role driven, experienced, and ready to uplevel your career while reclaiming more clarity, confidence, and joy.

This is the show for you. Each week I talk with powerhouse leaders about what it takes to really rise without losing yourself along the con, because rising isn't just about doing more. It's about leading with vision, sharpening your emotional intelligence, and having the courage to self-reflect along the way.

Let's get to it. Hello, this is Lori Pine, the joy, CEO, and today I am so pleased to invite you into my kitchen in case you're watching on YouTube where I am joined by [00:01:00] the one and only Michael Pine, my husband. And so I thought today it would be a great opportunity for you to come behind the scenes to how I met my beloved and the journey that brought us to this point in time.

Welcome, my love.

Michael: It's been a long time waiting and listening to watching you that I would finally be a guest.

Lori: Well, I thought that I would work out the kinks before I had you on the podcast.

Michael: Well, now that you're famous and have so many accordance, this is perfect.

Lori: Well, here we are. So let me take anybody listening back in time, I was a single mom.

I was working a full-time job and. If the saying is true that you're only as good as the five people you surround yourself with, marrying you really up to my game. And that is the truth. My life changed when I met Michael Pine. I.

Michael: And vice versa.

Lori: I thank you. So I was this single mom, no financial support from my ex-husband.

Really doing it all. Raising these boys. Collapsing into bed at night, sometimes crying myself to sleep, wondering what I was doing, how I was doing, if I was doing it right, if we were ever going to make it out alive. And I really had this chance meeting that was in no way meant to be the door that would open to the love of my life.

It was really meant to be part of some financial security that I was just really trying to provide for my boys. So here's how it went. I needed life insurance. And a friend said, I've got this guy down in Jersey, and lo and behold, that was Michael Pine. So in the meanwhile, the work that I had been doing on my personal, you know, kind of self discovery journey was.

Who did I want to invite into my life? Who, who would I want for a partner next? And so I made a list. I had, I had heard this speaker talk about this list that she had made after a divorce. And she was so specific right down to the fact that she wanted him to speak French. And when she left that conference, she was literally going to get married that weekend.

And he spoke French. So it inspired me to make a list, and here are the things that were on that list for me.

Michael: And I don't speak French, by the way.

Lori: No, but you have a lot of other great qualities. So the person that was gonna come into my life had to love my boys. You know, they, he had to be affectionate, he had to be self-supporting, be true to his word, bring flowers, as trivial as that sounded.

I really wanted somebody who was thoughtful and would bring flowers. He had to be loyal and be reliable. Somebody that I could really count on. And today. I'm really introducing you to the person who checked every single box and had so many more boxes than I even made the list for. So. Just a note of, you know, let me put in asterisk all this.

Michael is completely sharing personal stories today and not offering any financial advice. So for anybody listening from a compliance perspective, we are only talking about how we met and the life we've built together.

Michael: That's the compliance commercial.

Lori: Yes, thank you. The legal footprint. So here I was, this single mom and I had this chance meeting thanks to a friend named Jane who said, yeah, you need more life insurance.

You need to roll over a 401k. I've got a guy for you, he's down in Jersey. Give him a call. And so, Michael, what happened when one day you get this email in your inbox?

Michael: I am sitting minding my own business and I get this email and I thought, oh, just another email. 'cause. I'm used to getting emails regularly from people who are being referred to me and wanna talk to me.

So I think, okay, this is just another opportunity. But this one is very different. This is very different. 'cause I get the email and I say, okay, we need to talk on the phone. I need to talk to you. 'cause you came from Jane. Now Jean was an accountant in a company that I worked with, and she put me through the ringer.

She wanted to know everything. I had to give her details. I had to give her backup. I had to give her a bibliography so it wasn't so simple. So when she referred somebody, I thought, uhoh, here we go. This is gonna be another one. But I did not know that this was gonna be a life changer.

Lori: And how far into this life insurance process was it before you knew that there was something a little different about me?

Michael: Right from the beginning, my assistant tried to get the information that we needed because unfortunately, when you apply for life insurance, you're signing documents. This is before DocuSign. This is before, well, there's a fax machine. There's, there was no scanner. You had to basically give your left arm and then some, you had to answer phone calls.

You had to have wet signatures. You had to scan something, fax something, or not scan something. It's, it's hard. It's, people want life insurance, but they don't want to go through this process and it's not easy. And you were busy. You were running around the country in a high level corporate job and. It wasn't an easy process.

We tried to make it easy, but you didn't answer phone calls

or emails

or emails.

Lori: And so how long into the process was I coined the worst client ever.

Michael: When the process is supposed to take about a month, and it took you for years, it was.

Lori: It took me nine months.

Michael: Nine months. I could have had a child in that period of time.

Yes, but didn't, that's when my assistant turned to me and said, you gotta get involved. She's not answering anything. We just need one more signature and we're done. And I therefore had to make a phone call. And this was a game changing phone call because. I called and I wasn't even saved on your phone. No.

That's how highly regarded you thought of me. So little. I took your money, but I did answer the phone. You did answer the phone in an interesting way.

Lori: You said, Hey Lori, it's Michael Pine. And I said, oh, expletive. And it was really an expletive. It was like OF, and he said. Did you just say that out loud? And I started cracking up laughing and I was like, I did you want something?

I don't know. I don't even know what you want, but I know you want something like my first born or something. And long story short, he reminded me that I was the one who went to him. I was the one who really did want to protect my boys in the event that something happened to me. And so he very quickly put that at the top of my inbox.

I was able to get it signed, you know, had the pony express come with the horses and pretty much deliver it, get it faxed back, but, and that was it. And then he said, you know, Lori, with all that you're doing with me, you really should meet me. We should have lunch and you can actually sign everything in person.

Michael: Which you were reluctant to do, even though I had all of your money.

Lori: Very reluctant to do.

Michael: But you then finally agreed.

Lori: But I did agree. And then that was a real game changer and that's when everything started to come into play. So that was circa 2010, 15 years ago. Yeah. And so much has happened since then. We have built a life merged children, merged grandchildren. Michael has two grandchildren, Juliana and Oliver, that we just adore and really.

We all really have come to just love each other, but it was this real chance meeting and so we bowed to, you know, walk this path together. And I think it's just an important story because when I left my job at Campbell's in 2021, I wouldn't have been able to do that without the support of Michael.

He was fully supportive of what I was trying to do and the, the way I was trying to show up and support my youngest son, and we had no idea what that would be. So, I just really want to reemphasize this list and the importance of this list.

Michael: And by the way, I was going through my own transition, so it was similar.

Lori: When we met.

Michael: When we met, I was going through a very similar transition as well, and so I was looking for my next phase of my life, not thinking that it was gonna come from you didn't know where it was gonna be coming from, but I was in a spot and I was also told by a mentor that if I wanted to move on, what I should probably do is to write down everything that I would want from another person.

Don't leave anything out, don't judge it. Just write down that list as if it was a genie in a bottle and you were gonna get the, the list, the wish or an Amazon order that was just gonna come to your door.

Lori: And do you remember what was on your list?

Michael: Yeah, there was very specific things on the list, not speaking French, but yes, I had very specific things [00:11:00] that I wanted very similar.

And it was important that I had somebody that could do their own pushups. Somebody that was self-supported, someone that was really loved dogs, someone that loved children that would love my family. Blending of family is not easy. Uh, there's a lot of challenges even in the best of circumstances. The Brady Bunch made it look easy.

It, it's not always that easy. There's lots of different things on both sides, and that was very, very important. That was an important part of what I wanted. That's what you had, that's what you provided. So that was important. So that list and, and the things that I thought were really, really important came true.

But then there were so many other gifts that you provided that I didn't even know were possible spontaneous. You're a gypsy. My mother used to say that she thought you were in the witness [00:12:00] protection program because you lived in so many states and was that really her name?

Lori: That really is a funny story, but my mother-in-law, yes.

Yes. So we, we both have this list and then some of them are really non-negotiables. And so for me, one of them was that I really wanted you to love my boys. And do you recall, like there's a moment when you first met the boys. We were, we were six months into dating when you first met them, but do you recall the first moment when you were like, wow, these are my boys?

Michael: There were so many of them. I know when I first met. The boys because we went to a baseball game together. We did. We went to a Yankees game. Went to a Yankees game. As soon as one of the boys, your oldest boy opens up the door. I lock eyes with him and I went Love at first sight. Love at first sight. The other one, not so much.

He wasn't exactly sure. He was kind of very reserved. Very reserved. It wasn't as easy. Jackson was [00:13:00] much easier. Bryce was a little bit more difficult, but that was okay. So we're at a game together. I'm a Red Sox fan. I'm on a Yankee stadium. I feel like I'm on Emmy territory, but I still decide to go.

Lori: You were a good Yankee fan that day.

Michael: That was a good Yankee fan that day. That was important to know and and that was the day that Arod was at 599 home runs.

Hit.

Lori: Hit number 600.

Michael: Hit number 600. And I had told Jackson that I had called Arod that night and said, okay, Arod, you're home now. You can hit the 600th home run. I just said that out loud.

I didn't even know what I was talking about. We're sitting in the stands. Arod hit 600, we're watching. He turns me and he goes, you really did call him, didn't you? And I went, oh my God. Oh, what do I say here? Yeah, this is about trust. Yeah. I don't, no, I didn't call.

Lori: And so when did you know that like, these are really your boys, like you're in it?

Michael: Man, there was, you know, when we were [00:14:00] just going on trips together and, and they would come up and, and they would hug me and I don't, the, the greatest probably one, and it took a long time, was Jackson was going to college. We were in the parking lot and they would always, I would always say I would love them after a long period of time and I would never get a response back.

'cause they had loyalty to their father and we felt very strongly about him. We never said bad things about him. He's a good guy. We still love him to this day. But in the parking lot, as he's leaving, he turns to me and hugs me and you're nearby. And he turns and he says, I love you. And it was like. Wow.

Yeah, and everyone heard it, so it wasn't like I made it up and that was one of the turning points of like, wow, this is really important. This is really key. This is,

yeah,

this is a big deal.

Lori: Yeah. We're a family. Yes. Okay. Another one was, you know, affectionate. I needed you to be affectionate. I had [00:15:00] been in a marriage that was not affectionate and it was really important to me.

And not in a performance sort of way, but in an authentic, you know, it had to be natural in who you were. So what are ways that you show up daily in an affectionate way? It's just part of who you are.

Michael: And I must have read somewhere that. Wives need about five hugs a day. Yes. Non-sexual hugs. Yes. Five hugs a day.

So I make it my point to make sure that I go up and hug you. I think kisses are really important too. Sure. As many times as I can that all throughout the day, when we're working together, when we're out and about, that's really important to me. And I know it's important to you too. So it's something that you accept.

Yeah,

a lot.

Lori: It's, and I give them back.

Yes.

The next one was self-supporting. I really wanted a partner who could be self-supporting, and when I say [00:16:00] that, I'm really talking about somebody who could stand on their own two feet, but I think it's more than that. When I, when you hear me say that, what does that mean for you?

What do you hear and how has it evolved?

Michael: I listen, I think in, in a marriage, in a, in a, in a partnership like that, everyone has to do their own pushups. Everyone has to look and dig inside and not point the finger and say, well, it's your fault. And you, if you would. That's never the case. It's always a joint thing.

And if you can inside look and see what is happening, then admit when you're wrong. Yeah. And then make an adjustment and change that. That's one of the things that, that I, it's very strong. I felt very strongly I needed that from somebody else. 'cause I did not see that in my prior marriage, there's a lot of finger pointing.

Yeah. And so it was important for me that that person as well as me, would take on their own inventory and see exactly what their part was. And then you could go ahead and, and adjust. But it always can't be one sided. Otherwise it wasn't. It wouldn't work. That was key.

Lori: I [00:17:00] agree. You're really good at that.

Michael: Yes. I tried it. And so are you.

Lori: Thank you. Okay. True to his word. You know, words hold a lot of weight. One of my college degrees was in, I was an English major, so I wrote down he does what he says he will do. And when you hear me say that, what's one small promise that you kept that built huge trust with me?

Michael: I remember you telling me that there were circumstances where somebody would say they were gonna show up and pick somebody up, or go to do like a parent teacher, teacher conference and be there and say, I'm going to do that, and then actually do it as opposed to not do it. So that to me was what I was built to do anyway.

And so when I did that, you were kinda shocked, like. You were away in California and the boys had a parent teacher conference. I went to it.

Lori: And you went I was stunned. Yeah, I was stunned.

Michael: And that was to me, just like a normal thing to do because I, I met them. [00:18:00] Your youngest was six, your oldest was eight.

So I brought them up basically. So they were seven and nine. Yeah. So they were basically my kids. In addition, I have my own kids. Right. But those were my kids as well. That's the way we sort of took it. Yes. And that was one way of doing it, showing up, saying what you say you're going to do. That was important to them too, because they counted on that.

Yes.

Because you weren't always around.

Lori: And you role modeled that for them?

Michael: I tried, yes.

Lori: Okay. I know this sounds trivial, but the next one is, I really wanted somebody who would bring flowers. It, it really meant something to me, and I remember being so nervous to tell you that that was important, but as soon as I did, there it was.

And you did not flinch. And do you remember the first time you brought me flowers?

Michael: I remember, so I used to come, you lived to New York? I lived in New Jersey and I used to anticipate the ride. It was an hour ride, [00:19:00] and I would stop at my favorite sushi place that had flowers and I would pick them up knowing that these are just gorgeous as you are and bringing them.

And I always made it a habit of not bringing flowers to apologize ever. Even to this day, I do it because I love you. I want you to have them. They're, they're fresh. They represent freshness and beauty and all the things that you embody.

Lori: Yes, thank you for that. Loyalty. That's the next one. And loyalty isn't quiet.

Loyalty is visible. And. Can you tell the people listening about a moment when you chose us, especially when it could have been easier not to.

Michael: Opportunity that that chose us? Well, you know, when you, you get involved in, in an argument with the kids and they're going to either take a side or come to you, come to [00:20:00] me and you know, we stayed very, very firm to Lori.

These are your boys. You go ahead. As much as I wanted to discipline them, you stepped in and I stepped back. Always, always step and, and the same thing with my kids. Always. And we would always talk about, so that could be a major conflict. Like I never heard from any one of those boys, even to this day. Oh, why are you telling me that you're not my dad.

Lori: Ever. I never heard that from them. Yeah. I never disciplined your kids. You never disciplined my kids.

Michael: And I remember having a conversation with both boys saying, listen, I am not your dad. I don't wanna be your dad. You have a dad. I am a different kind of a person. And they that and I, you should have a close relationship with your dad.

I'm not gonna replace him. I'm not, I never talk bad about him. Ever. Never to them, to you. I didn't need to. And I think they respected that. So it wasn't like they had to choose.

Lori: Right. Very much so, because that can be [00:21:00] so confusing for a kid.

Michael: Oh my God. And then, and then keeps a distance away from you so that it stops the intimacy.

When that breaks down, they know it's safe because it's not a competition. Right.

Lori: And they don't wanna betray their parent.

Michael: No. And I think that's what we had heard at one point, that when we talked intimately about that, especially the Jackson, he was like, I feel really bad because I am having to choose.

Lori: Yeah.

Michael: And we wanted nothing to do with it.

Lori: Nothing. Nothing to do with that. Okay. And the last one is I wanted somebody who would be reliable and. Reliable isn't glamorous. Reliable is like showing up when nobody else may be showing up, and so. Tell me about how you think we structure our, we le our weeks, so reliability is just built in.

We know we're there for each other and it's not just like some, you know, magical hoped for wish on a.

Michael: Well. I think the [00:22:00] one that really sticks out in my mind is you use to fly around the country every week and every week. And this one time you're flying back from California and the weather was really bad.

You are gonna be flying into one airport, and you let me know that you're going to another airport, but your car is at the other. The third airport. The third airport, yeah. And it's pretty much. Either midnight or close to midnight and you don't know what happens when you land. Right? Is there a taxi? Is there not?

So I just jumped into action and made sure that there was a car there. And this was before we were dating. We were, we were in pretty new, yeah. And I thought, this is live by it. Gosh, this is good, man. I could do this. And I got a car to show up to pick you up to get you, so that you didn't have to worry.

You were stranded.

Lori: Yes.

Michael: And that someone was, had your back.

Lori: Yes, it's true. It's true. And when I got that text that there was a car waiting for me [00:23:00] at JFK at one in the morning when my car was in White Plains, we were supposed to come into LaGuardia. You cannot imagine the relief that came over me because nobody else on that flight had a car waiting for them and did not know how they were gonna get back to White Plains, which was where we were originally supposed to go to.

So Michael saved the day and so reliable.

Michael: You might have solidified our, it was a pretty good hold. Yeah. God made me a good opportunity to, yeah. Tell my stripes.

Lori: Yes, for sure. For sure. So let's talk about what it's really like to be in a second marriage and to blend a family. What surprised you most about blending a family?

Michael: Well, the humility, I wanted to be the top dog and those boys really gave me a run. It taught me in my business, I'm running the show when it comes to [00:24:00] advising people what to do. And when it came here, you know, you, you used to say like. I come in the door like I'm in charge here. But no, it was, they were, you were very close to them and I was another part of this, and so I had to bring myself in.

And even to this day that, that, that I realize that they're really important to you. And although I'm very close to them and they consider me one of their dads. That was a very humbling Yeah. I wasn't ready for that.

Lori: Yeah. And same with your daughter. Yeah. I mean, you, she, she is a daddy's girl. Yep. And her loyalty is 100% to you.

Michael: Well, she's come around a long way because it's taken, you know.

Lori: It's 15 years later. She and I are very close. I adore her, have tremendous respect for her. She's a wonderful mother, just a wonderful human. But in the beginning, you know, it was kind of like a, excuse me, that is my dad. And [00:25:00] yeah, well, even your youngest son, that one point you were getting engaged, I'm not so sure about, this was his reaction.

So Joie where it was so, you know, it's, it's really. Does take a lot of humility and patience too. You know, we didn't rush into things and get married a year later. We were together, we met in 2010. We didn't get engaged until 2014 and we didn't get married until 2016. So that's six years for everybody to kind of get

Michael: and having meet kids for

Lori: six months.

Michael: Six months. Yeah. And that was interesting too. And for anybody who is either going through a divorce or. Thinking about, it's a lot of hard work Yes. To do that. This is not, and it's every single day. Little things matter. Going to the parent teacher, making somebody lunch, making sure that if they are at school need to [00:26:00] be picked up, that somebody shows up.

Yeah. There's little things that really take a lot of work and not, I don't think they ever saw us like yell and scream and argue 'cause I don't raise my voice so. That's not who I am. So they just got a sense to see a role model of how relationships go. And it's not, you know, take a pill and it's over.

It's a daily reprieve. It's, it's every single day doing new things, having flowers that doesn't, even though the flowers last five days, it, they.

Lori: It's a gesture. That's a gesture that that they see. Yeah. As a token, my boys don't remember me being with their dad or living with their dad. So you really role modeled for them what it is to be with a partner, be kind to somebody, what that really looks like.

Okay, let's do a quick lightning round, if you will.

Michael: I'll heard this.

Lori: What's the most financial planner thing you've ever [00:27:00] said to me?

Michael: How much does it cost?

Lori: Yes. How much did that cost? But you are really good about that. Like you never complain.

Michael: No, no, no. I don't care. I would like you to have more shoes.

Because I'm a shoe man, so Yes, yes. I love to see those beautiful shoes on you. So.

Lori: And that wasn't on my list, by the way. It should have been, but it wasn't, and I really luck out on that one. Okay. What's the most Joy CEO thing I've ever said to you?

Michael: The most joyous. Oh yeah, we're getting in the car and you're not telling me where we're going.

You just, this is a date and you're not, we're, you are either going north or south. This is the kind of spontaneity that my wife brings to my life that I did not have. Growing up at all or, or anywhere. And I did not know what was going on.

Lori: And I did that to you very early on. In fact, it was a very big birthday of yours.

Yeah. I told you to pack a bag. What to put in the bag. And then we got on the highway and I said, I don't know. Are we going north? We going south and

Michael: Yeah. And as a planner not to know what I'm, you know [00:28:00] what? End game is.

Lori: so uncomfortable. Okay. Who starts the dance party in the kitchen?

Michael: Me.

Lori: A hundred percent.

It's always you.

Yeah. You're so good at that.

Michael: I'm playing the music. I start the dance party.

Lori: Okay. Our, if you're a willing participant, always our love language in one word, our love language mine.

Ours together in one word.

Michael: Physical touch.

Lori: Not sure that's okay. Date night, are we doing reservations or the couch and pizza?

Michael: Oh my god. Couch and pizza.

Lori: I pick that every time. Yeah.

Yes.

Michael: I'm the kind of guy that wants to go out.

Lori: I know you're fancy.

Michael: Yeah. Even like on on, we were getting engaged and, and we were in Paris and I had this great reservation for the Eiffel Tower.

Took months in advance and you decided crepes on the street would be your choice. So

Lori: can you believe that? That's what I did. We forwent the Eiffel Tower reservations and we got crepes on the street and it was the time of my life, [00:29:00] okay? The song that is so us that we love and dance in the kitchen too, to this day.

Michael: All of me.

By John Legend.

Lori: By John Legend, yes. Our wedding song. And the last one. What do I do that makes you feel most loved?

Michael: I, I'm a foodie, so anything time, there's food being prepared that is a major love language. That, and you make me breakfast a lot of times even though I don't have enough time for. Meeting to meeting, to meeting, and all of a sudden I, that's, that's really, that's really key.

Lori: Yes. And for me, you bring me flowers and I'm so happy with that. Okay, so that wraps up my interview with my darling husband, Michael Pine. That is a one word name for him. He is Michael Pine, and everybody I know in our family calls him Michael Pine. So just to wrap this up for you, those of you who have been listening, write your list.

It's never too late. It doesn't matter if [00:30:00] you're married, happily married, unhappily married, single, wanting to be partnered, whatever it is, wherever you are at in your relationship, write a list. Manifest what it is that you want for your relationship, whether it's your current relationship or your next relationship.

If you're in a relationship, have that conversation. This is what I would really like. This is what I need. What do we need to do differently? And if you don't have a relationship right now, start to think about how you can become what it is that you want and really start to lean into being that person so that you can attract that person.

I firmly believed that unless we do the inside work. We cannot change the trajectory of who it is that we're attracting into our life. We're going to keep getting the same type of person on repeat until we energetically change ourselves. [00:31:00] And once we do that, well, then we can change who we attract.

Michael: And I was always told that you will attract someone to the level of mental health that you are at.

Lori: Ouch. So you want to upgrade your mental health. If things aren't going well, it's time for you to upgrade your own mental health. Okay? Put that list somewhere where you can see it, somewhere, where you can look back on it and then know that none of this is magic. It really is just the power of manifestation, getting clear on what you want, and knowing that that is what is inside your hula hoop and sticking to those standards for yourself.

So in closing, from a single mom who is doing it all to loving my life, a journey that started with a pen, making a list and a promise to myself that I would not go backwards. If you're [00:32:00] listening and you're in the messy middle, get clear on your no non-negotiables and stick to them. Hold them like firm boundary.

The right person will rise to your occasion. I'm Lori Pine, the joy, CEO. I'm so glad you got to meet my husband, Michael Pine. We are glad to be doing it with you. Thanks everybody. Have a great day.